Saturday, January 31, 2015

A Grandson Remembers, Part Two

But the YMCA was not the only special group there that December afternoon!  There was also a group of grandchildren and great grandchildren.  Two of the daughters of Julia Cooper Warren were present:  Jamee Warren Shelby and Dr Lisa Cooper Warren.  Two of the Stacy children, Dr Mark Stacy and Sara Stacy Dyer and their families were also present!

It was a particularly poignant experience for Dr Stacy, now the Vice Dean for Clinical Research at Duke University as well as the Duke Movement Disorders Center.   Stacy is well-known nationally for his research and publications on  Parkinson's disease and other movement disorders!

But that day he was there as a proud, caring grandson who remembered and reflected.  "As a little boy I remember being in a hospital baby bed and Mom brought me a coloring book.  It was a comfort at a time that I really did not understand what was happening. I had not thought of that moment in 50 years, but it came back when we were walking through the lonely halls of the Pediatric Unit.  I thought the little room with the blackboard is a nice corner of familiarity and safety for kids stuck in the hospital.  The art supplies give those children a little control and comfort in difficult, often confusing and lonely moments!"

Stacy talked to the children about his grandmother adding that now they could claim her too!  He added:  "Mama Cooper was a gentle and quiet woman, who never missed anything.  My favorite moment occurred when I forgot my manners, and did not come to see her first and give her a hug, before I ran off to play with my cousins.  She let me know that my hug mattered to her and my respect for her! I have made sure that it does for my entire life!"

A grandson remembers!

On December 23, 2014 Missouri Delta Hospital hosted an afternoon reception for supporters of "Mama Cooper's Wall" at the hospital, a project which began when Jane Cooper Stacy was touring the Pediatrics Unit and a child asked the nurse for more paper to draw on!   Mrs. Stacy immediately went to see Marcie Lawson, Director of Development at the hospital and the idea was borne.

Much has happened since by many people to ensure an ongoing success.  The unit has been physically changed, as well as the decor!  Other people have stepped up in varied ways giving stuffed animals to each entering child and a new toy each morning!  The YMCA in southeast Missouri has also donated art supplies!

The children and staff from the YMCA came to the reception with their director, Cassandra Limbaugh, and posed with two of the daughters of "Mama Cooper", Jane Cooper Stacy and Julia Cooper Warren.  

 One of the children asked Mrs. Warren if she knew "Mama Cooper" and she told her that she was her daughter.  It did not faze the child,  "You're not a child! You're old!"  Mrs.  Warren answered, "Did 
You know that Mama Cooper was 67 years old before she ever picked up a paint brush?"

Jim and Laurie's anniversary

Today is my son, Jim's 6th wedding anniversary with his wife, Laurie!  They are so happy together and I bless the day she came into our lives!   They live in Madison, Wisconsin and I miss seeing them today but I smile when I look at their picture!

Congratulations to you both and love!

Friday, January 30, 2015

Meetings at the house today!

Hey, I like this.  Get dressed, make a pot of coffee and the meetings come to you!! First, I had coffee with Jim McGill, chemistry prof, who is from Anniston and his graduate student, Sariah Nniug!  She just interviewed for a position in North Carolina.

Then I am helping Audrey Kennedy who is curator at Saxon Lutheran Memorial and we are putting together a brochure for her!  I even called Frank Nickell for his comments.   I'm tired and never left the house!

Thursday, January 29, 2015

I'm a Mayflower Mover!



Yesterday was a day to write home about!  We got five beds donated, four singles and a queen, which is rare on the same day and they went to students who are Hindu from India.  One of them was sleeping on the floor!  However, I am not a part of the delivery team!  I solicit!   Our delivery team is Dr Wanda Pipkin, a veterinarian with a truck and Lynette Williamson!  students help unload!  Then Marge Janssen responded to my ask on Facebook and she came with linens, comforters and new pillows!  Several students slept better last night thanks to the Mayflower Movers of the Bsc!

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Wanted: A bed to sleep on!

Pretty essential, right!  But not to our Semo international students who come and have to watch every penny and will sleep on Mars on floor if we who volunteer at Bsc would do nothing!  

Today we are delivering five beds to students from India who are Hindu!  And another donor is coming by with linens!  Wanda Pipkin, a veterinarian, has a truck and it will take all hands on deck!

But it is something that we want to do and people need it!   Just a simple bed -- unless you are sleeping on a mat on the floor!

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Inefficiency?

I hate inefficiency!  When someone called me during my working career I got back to them!  My accountant called yesterday and said that he needed some clarification!  One of these involved my university contributions!  I called Susan Burton at the Foundation and asked her to call my accountant!  Six minutes later she emailed me that it was done!

Don't ever completely retire Susan!  I don't even know the name or the face of your replacement!

Monday, January 26, 2015

My scholarship recipients

Over the weekend I had the privilege of visiting with two of my scholarship recipients!  Eric Miller has Jims scholarship and Jun Li has Daddy's!  I also have three in my name and Jennie has one in her name!  I love the idea of the legacy of learning and I try to stay involved in their lives!

So Eric came over on Jims birthday and jun Li came to the Center last night!

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Jim Cooper had a birthday yesterday!

When I remember growing up in the old house on West Marshall street in Charleston, I think of us as a family of five:  Daddy, Momma, Jim, Rosie and me!  The other kids lived somewhere else!  Jim was the tormentor but when the animals died, we carried the bodies to the field wrapped in dotted Swiss and we had a service with Jim doing the service.  And Brother Jim did it with dignity!

Rose Marie  and I talked about him yesterday and we laughed like 
hyenas at his temper fits!  No one was excluded!  He thought he was an expert on the organ and he once wrote a very adult letter to the head of an organ company telling him what was wrong with his organ!  The president called him back and Daddy answered the phone saying that Jim was out in the barn milking the cow!  Jim ranted and raved for months when Daddy told him about the call and his response!  But not to Daddy--to his little sisters he called Dumkoph (to show off his German) and/or Pig of the Back Woods!   I reminded Rosie of his oft said prediction to me: "You have no talent!  You will wind up selling tickets at the McCutchen Theater in Charleston!"




Saturday, January 24, 2015

Joan and limits of friendship!

I have been around the world with Joan Gohn on trips and cruises and we agree on practically everything!  But she hates for me to take pictures of her and put it on Facebook!  

Last night Joan, Judy Brown and I went to Rays in Kelso to eat and gossip and I partially obeyed her orders!  I only took pictures of the waiter flaming the steaks at the next table!  But I sure as hell put that on Facebook!   I may not win all the time but I don't intend to lose every one of my diversions!

Friday, January 23, 2015

Me and meetings

Yesterday was fast paced!  Got my hair done, had lunch with Susan Burton, had coffee with Sam Duncan and then went to BGs for athletic fundraiser with Matt Porter!   I slept big time!   Susan and Sam and I worked together and you don't have to think of what to say next since one thing leads to ten hours!

And, of course, I had to point out a grammatical error on the King program where you grab the reins not reigns!  Spellcheck does not catch misuse of actual words!  We always loved to catch the mistakes of others!  And, apparently, we still do!

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Dr Martin Luther King

I went to the Dinner last night for Dr King and the speaker, Soledad O Brien was uplifting!  Over 1000 people attended the dinner and I was pleased to be part of it!

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Lunch with Jane Stephens

I went out to eat yesterday with Jane Stephens who was formerly History professor and Provost at Semo!  Another bond we had was her friendship with my sister, Jennie Cooper, who died in June!

Jane has been a source of strength for me as I dealt with Jennie's illness and death!  She has had the kindness of encouragement and I shall always love her for caring about Jennie and me!

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

My phone stays hot with people wanting help

I start every morning with a blank slate but that ends quickly!  People who do not know anyone else from the University know my name and number and are not afraid to call it!  I spent all day yesterday trying to find an apartment for a friend's granddaughter who decided, on the spur of the moment , to come to college!  

Another person called about raising funds and two more needed help with resumes!  These are not trivial matters!  They affect lives;  and they are meaningful opportunities to me!

Whoops!  Now I am working on getting tickets for a family to a basketball game!  Their own daughter was killed while she was on our team!


Martin Luther king said:
"Life's most persistent and urgent question is "What are you doing for others ""?"

Monday, January 19, 2015

Fried Chicken

Ecumenical motion rules! Left Trinity Lutheran and went to Baptist Student Center where we unpacked 180 pieces of hot fried chicken for international students! And they loved it with all the trimmings!
 — with Randeya Aaron and3 others at Baptist Student Center.

The Messiah

I went to Trinity Lutheran this afternoon to hear the Messiah with Jayne Schrader today! Vicki Boren directed masterfully! Of the five soloists, four of them I consider to be "family": Trudy Trudy Lee, my office "running buddy", Patty and Steve Mcpheeters (I taught him in 3rd grade in Malden), Elizabeth Shelton who was in same grade in Campus School with my daughter, Sara, and Don Donald Presson who went to church with me in Charleston! I was proud of all "my" family!
 — with Jayne Schrader and Vicki Boren at Trinity Lutheran Church.

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Me and Dutch Meyr

We go back to the time of Moses!  He played football with Bill Stacy in 1956 and he says all the time he would have never passed English without me and Barb Lohr!   But he is a steady rock to me!

I yelled out to him last night, " Dutch, get your money out and buy this book!  You are in it". And he came running with a $100 bill!   There are two men in this town that no one would ever question their loyalty or love for me:  Dutch and Greg Brune!  And we were together last night!

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Hall of Fame semo

I helped Hines and Brune get the Semo Hall of Fame started 13 years ago and I am still helping it!  When it was 10 years old I gathered the information, wrote a book , paid for the printing and gave them the money!  Last night we introduced a supplement for the last three years and I signed books! It was fun!

I am going back tonight to sell more books!  And to see the people!  I still love Semo!

Friday, January 16, 2015

It is the Printed Word off the press!

Bobby Brune brought me my copy of the supplement to the Hall of Fame book which will be unveiled tonight at the Hall of Fame Banquet!   I felt the anticipation of opening a gift!  

The Hall of Fame means something to me and I wanted to keep these people and their terrific achievements on the record!  I applaud them all!

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Betty and me remembering!

I went to Charleston, 1st Baptist, yesterday and took the head of the Music Department at Semo to meet my sister, Betty Cooper Hearnes!  Dr.  Kevin Hampton is a Baptist preacher's kid and had a Fulbright Scholarship to study piano in Paris, among other things!  I knew that they would hit it off!  And they did!

He was wowed by the Steinway and the organ and they played duets together!  Then he played for her to sing, "My God is Real"!  Then he sat on the Steinway and played old hymns out of the Broadman as we called out the titles!

It was an amazing afternoon!  It restored my soul!

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Lana Flynn-Richmond

Went out to have coffee at My Daddy's with Lana this morning who was Semo's longtime softball coach and it was great!  Both of us have dealt with issues at the university and come through it fine .  It gives us a common bond!   

I told her that I had no idea how little the university is involved in the lives of ordinary citizens in the area and how little it is mentioned in daily life!  When I was at the university, I had the mistaken notion that the world revolved around the university! The world revolves around people and filling their minds, stomachs and gas tanks and billfolds!  It is a awesome task!

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Gloria doing her thing!

Gloria Shirrell is here on Tuesday!

Every Tuesday for forty years at least Gloria has come to clean my house from Frohna!  She worked for my sister, Jennie, too until her death!

I used to go to work jumping for joy that I would come home to a clean house!  Now I try to make it easier for her!  She is getting older too!   We need to stick together!   I am not in the productive phase yet today!  May take a mental day off!

Monday, January 12, 2015

Call me Betty Crocker

We were supposed to have sleet all day but we did not!  But I cancelled everything!   So I cooked and cooked!  Made a chess pie and made a pot of potato soup with Pioneer Woman receipe!  Heather came to bring me a coke and get groceries so I cut the pie and gave her two pieces and most of the potato soup since her mother is an invalid!

Then Matt Porter called to say that a b Cooper ministries was on and I fixed a big pot of vegetable soup and a new cabbage recipe which is wonderful!

Sunday, January 11, 2015

A wintry and icy day is on its way!

We are supposed to have ice today and most everything has been cancelled!  I have groceries and stuff to do!  So I will be staying inside and doing the safe thing!  

Bring it on!  I will watch it from the front door and the newscasts!!!!

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Feeding the Students

Today would have been my brother Autrey's birthday. It made me think of all the fun we have had together as a family. The Cooper family has been blessed. We would love that legacy to continue on.



Saxon Lutheran Memorial

I met with Audrey Kennedy yesterday afternoon who is the museum curator!  She came to my house and told me of the financial needs that existed!  It is scary for those of us who are not in fundraising and I used my standard advice bits :  expand your donor base and tell your story!

I gave her something I just did and told her how she could adapt!  She left a happy camper because she saw a glimmer of hope!

Friday, January 9, 2015

A "bed" day!

We are in need of beds for international students!  In fact, we are having a big influx of students coming in and we need them now!  I called Tab Barks at Patrick's and Chris Hutson at Hutsons and alerted them!  Tab called back and he had a queen sized one but it had to be picked up immediately! (We don't take kings)

Mark Hoffmeister had his dad pick it up and he stored it in his kitchen until Lynn Williamson and Dr Wanda Pipkin could pick it up!  Lynn called back to say it was a floor model and wonderful bed!  They took to a student from India!

That was one of many we need!  Matt Porter and I went to Walmart and I bought and donated a bed!

Thursday, January 8, 2015

A day well spent

Never missed a beat from arising to right now at 6:18 and  I am feeling it in my bones!  Ran to Walmart, got my hair done, went to lunch and dinner and worked at Baptist Student Center moving furniture and helping locate a bed for an Indian student!  Tab Barks at Patrick's came thru with a floor model.




Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Cold today

It is colder than a witches' tit today--my uncle who lived in hills and worked in timber used to say that.  It didn't make sense to me then and it doesn't now!

So I will sit here and watch Kathleen work and ponder.

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Hall of Fame

I did the Hall of Fame book three years ago and it is time to do a supplement which I thought the University was going to research and pay for!  That did not happen that way!  Why am I not surprised!   So I helped Bobby Brune finish it and I am paying for fifty copies!

We worked out the details today!  All of a sudden I had a houseful of company!  I even went to Coaches show yesterday with Greg Brune!

Monday, January 5, 2015

Charleston Girl

Area woman teaches English to the potential successor to the Dalai Lama

Monday, January 5, 2015


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Mary Catherine Frazier explains her world travels and experiences teaching English during an interview recently at the Southeast Missourian offices.
(Glenn Landberg) [Order this photo]
Even after living out of the United States for half of her life, Mary Catherine Frazier can't escape her Southern roots.
She has spent decades devoted to volunteer work, teaching English, publishing books, consulting with international schools on six of the seven continents and even teaching a world religious leader. Her knowledge of teaching English and understanding the way a language is taught and processed has lead her to write two books about it.
However, when talking about her hometown of Charleston, Missouri, the born-and-bred country girl makes a brief appearance.
"I was born and raised right here in the Bootheel," Frazier said. "At the confluence. I grew up right on that river. I learned to water ski on the banks of the Ohio and the Mississippi."
After leaving Missouri, Frazier and her husband, Richard, biked around Europe and worked for the Peace Corps in Sierra Leone, West Africa. Frazier studied for her master's degree in Spain, co-authored an English language series for primary students in Singapore, traveled back to Missouri with her family for her doctoral degree, and now is living in New Delhi, teaching at the American Embassy School.

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Ogyen Trinley Dorje poses for aphoto with Frazier in her classroom at the American Embassy School in New Delhi.
(Submitted by Mary Catherine Frazier)
"I guess I am kind of hard to keep up with," Frazier said with a grin. "My husband and my journeysstarted off very early, with everybody knowing we were going to be a little different than the local people -- in terms of wanting to have adventure."
The Fraziers raised their two children as "third-culture kids," meaning they are American passport holders, but did not live in the U.S. the majority of their time growing up.
"Once our kids were grown and had their jobs, westarted wondering, 'Well, what are mom and dad going to do?' We always really wanted to live overseas again, so we got leaves from our jobs to go over and work in India at the American Embassy School," she said.
It was while working there that Frazier received the greatest shock of her life: being asked to teach English to the successor to the Dalai Lama, Ogyen Trinley Dorje.
"It's so profoundly humbling," Frazier said. "[By that time I had my] career in publishing, consulting, as an author, and all that was great, but who would have ever thought that I would be asked to teach His Holiness, the Karmapa?

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Mary Catherine Frazier as Ms. Santa is seen at the Delhi Zoo with 300 children from the Tigri HOPE School.
(Submitted by Mary Catherine Frazier)
"And that was something that never was in the game plan for me in my life. I mean, it's just too unbelievable. You know it's like --" Frazier paused. "I don't even know what it's like. It's so big, and it's so special and it's so extraordinary."
Ogyen Trinley Dorje was deemed the 17th reincarnation of the Karmapa -- one of the most revered figures in Tibetan Buddhism -- when he was 7 years old.
Frazier explained that in the Buddhist culture, there is the Dalai Lama, who has served as the political and spiritual leader of Tibet since 1642, and then there is the Karmapa.
"[With] the Dalai Lama, there are no successors within that branch. They're like family names -- the Karmapa is like a group, the Lamas are like a group ... because there's even been a debate ... [that future successors] will not be called Dalai Lama, they will just be called the Karmapa, His Holiness, but you have to go through all these series of happenings in order to qualify for you to get that title. Well, the Dalai Lama has supported the man I teach to be his successor," Frazier explained.
Their lessons began two years ago, with one-on-one instruction, and eventually moving the Karmapa's education to Frazier's ninth-grade English class.

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Mary Catherine Frazier addresses 300 children from the Tigri HOPE School on a trip to the Delhi Zoo.
(Submitted by Mary Catherine Frazier)
When asked if Frazier taught the Karmapa differently than any other student, she paused and answered, "Yes and no."
"'No' in the sense that I have so many degrees now in how to teach language, I was very confident ... in the theory of what I needed to do. I knew how to do it, I knew my goal was communicative," she said. "I did not need to teach him to become an academic, where he could study at university and have enough English for that -- that was never my goal. I just needed him to be able to get out into a public audience and say something in English."
Frazier said when she first suggested the idea of moving the Karmapa's classes, she was met with some resistance, some even calling her idea crazy, but she knew it was going to work.
"I said, 'Let's just put him in with the Germans and the Hebrews and the Arabic speakers and Korean and Japanese and we'll just put him in my class. ... I wanted him to be immersed in the English setting, where he would be forced to have to speak," Frazier said.
This continued as the Karmapa's schedule allowed, and in the past year he spoke English publicly for the first time at the American Embassy School in New Delhi.

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Mary Catherine Frazier as Ms. Santa assists Santa Claus at a school in New Delhi, India.
(Submitted by Mary Catherine Frazier)
"I started crying, I was so moved," Frazier said. "I couldn't believe this had happened and then I couldn't believe I was sitting in this public audience and he was speaking English."
Frazier said teaching the Karmapa was unlike anything before. She said he learned so quickly and made a lot of progress in a short amount of time, because of his motivation and his insatiable eagerness to learn.
"He speaks three or four languages now; Korean, I think Japanese, and Tibetan, and Hindi, and Urdu and Chinese, so he had adopted a lot of those languages and his English is coming along," Frazier said.
With time, the Fraziers have gotten to know the Karmapa, and even invited him to have dinner in their home. Many may think it would be surreal to share a meal with a world religious leader, but Frazier just referred back to her Southern roots.
"My mama always said, 'We have a tradition down where I'm from, that once you get into somebody's kitchen and sit at their kitchen table with them, you're family.' So after we had finished eating I just looked at him and said, 'You're family now."
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